Stop Being a Fraud

Joanna Taylor Photography Kauai HawaiiWell, I was supposed to have a picture post for you today. And I have plenty to share with you, but as it turns out, I barely survived last week. Okay, maybe I’m being a little melodramatic. Or a lot…but it really was the toughest week to keep up with, maybe EVER.

But enough about my exhaustion. I just wanted to come and say “hey” without the selling, and without the pumping up of my chest showing you how “good” I am. Because sometimes I feel like by putting myself out there I’m saying, “Hey! Look at me. Look at what I can do.” When the fact is I usually think, “Gosh, I hope people like what they see. I hope that they don’t laugh at my efforts. I hope somebody sees this.” ┬áThere it goes again-my fear of failure. Why do we do that to ourselves? Haven’t we had enough?

I remember when Phillip Seymour Hoffman died, my husband and I watched some TV show about him. I don’t even remember which one, but they were showing clips of an interview he’d done. You know, I don’t know why we were even watching it. Honestly, we don’t normally pay attention when movie stars die. We don’t know them personally and figure a lot of what we do “know” is often created by the media anyway. But we admired PSH’s talent and were saddened at the loss of such a talented actor.

Anyway, as we were watching we both picked up on something he said. He mentioned how he was always so worried that he’d be found out as a fraud. That he really couldn’t act. I turned to my husband and said, “why do we do this?” Even this man, whom the world greatly admired as a talent in his own class, was worried he’d be looked at as a fraud. A failure. Not enough.

How do we STOP perpetuating this lie? How do we stop worrying about what others will judge of us? How do we start believing that who we are is enough? That what we have to offer is unique, and special, and something no one else can give just the way we do?

If you are living this lie, then let me be the first to tell you: you ARE a fraud. You are defrauding the world of all those amazing qualities, talents, and insights you have to offer. Maybe you have a life-story that I don’t (hey, I can pretty much guarantee that), which means the lessons you’ve learned and the growth you’ve made; the pain you’ve endured, and the triumphs you have found…those perspectives are all yours.

And this applies to everyone, everywhere. Not just photographers, actors, artists in any realm. This applies to business men, and service men (and when I say men, I really mean women too, because women work every bit as hard in the industries, if not more). This applies to mothers and fathers, mathematicians, magicians. Anyone. Everyone.

Hopefully I’m not the first to tell you this, but you are enough. YOU ARE ENOUGH! So please do the entire world a favor and stop lying. Start owning up to your greatness. It is powerful beyond measure.

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